Psychological Counselling

Mindful of my body? That's like asking a blind man to have a look!

Mindful of my body? That's like asking a blind man to have a look!

I was speaking with a client recently about some concerns she has with mindfulness. She told me she had attended a course on mindfulness, and during the program she had been repeatedly instructed by the teacher to ‘feel into her body’ – a common enough instruction used in meditation practice. She had some significant problems with this instruction though, and felt that the practice of mindfulness was just not for her - “Telling me to feel into my body, is like asking a blind man to have a look”, she said.

What's the Non-Diet Approach all about?

What's the Non-Diet Approach all about?

The term ’non-diet’ is one you will often see used by health professionals and advocates who encourage approaches to health and wellbeing that are contrary to popular messages promoting restrictive weight loss diets.

Many of the team at Mind Body Well were fortunate to be introduced to the non-diet world by Dr Rick Kausman, author of ‘If Not Dieting Then What?’ and one of the pioneers of the non-diet movement. The title of Rick’s book sums up well what many of our clients are asking…. “I’ve tried restrictive weight loss diets and they haven’t worked for me, so what now?”

10 Signs it's Time to Consider Psychological Therapy

10 Signs it's Time to Consider Psychological Therapy

The beginning of the year is the time to put your health and wellbeing high on the agenda for the year ahead.  If you’ve been considering Psychological Therapy to assist, and are unsure whether to give it a go, here are some signs that it may be time:

  1. Talking to your friends or family is no longer enough

"I am Already Enough"... Radical Acceptance

"I am Already Enough"... Radical Acceptance

How many times have you said to yourself “I’ll be happy when I… (insert here – lose weight, find a partner, get a new job, get what I want from my Mum etc)”?

For many of us its all-too familiar to find ourselves waiting on something within or around us to change so we can find greater self acceptance and life satisfaction. Too often we find ourselves waiting on a future event to pick us up and launch us to where we want to be, a kind of magical thinking which takes us out of the present moment and tells us in a whisper (or a shout) that “I’m not ok just as I am”. Ouch. That kind of attitude can really hurt.

How to Frustrate an Eating Disorder Therapist

How to Frustrate an Eating Disorder Therapist

Let me set the scene… there I am, pants off, hot wax hovering just above my legs… when the inevitable question comes from the beautician.

“So, what do you do?”

Honestly, sometimes I lie when I’m asked this question. If I’m not in the mood for a difficult conversation in my off-duty hours, sometimes I say I’m a teacher. After all I figure that’s only partly untrue.

But today I’m feeling ready for a conversation so I tell her… “I’m a Psychologist”.

Train Your Brain - Positive Neuroplasticity

Train Your Brain - Positive Neuroplasticity

Have you noticed the natural tendency most of us have to exaggerate one negative experience amongst a whole bunch of positives? How we minimise a range of pleasant experiences at the expense of a more unpleasant one which occupies our full attention?

It turns out this tendency is actually hard wired into our brain as a legacy of our evolutionary development. Our brain is trained to look out for potential dangers or threats, with what Neuroscientists call the ‘Negativity Bias’.

No Way... Self-Care is not Selfish!

No Way... Self-Care is not Selfish!

I’ve been having a lot of conversations with people lately about self care.

As we approach the pointy end of the year it seems many people are holding their breath waiting for the big exhale on Boxing Day, hoping to spend time engaging in self care activities when the festive season has passed.

It’s surprising though that so many people talk about self care as if it’s something that’s a bit selfish, naughty, decadent, and belongs down the bottom of the ‘things to do’ list.

Mindfulness is the New Black

Mindfulness is the New Black

Is it just me noticing this, or is everyone actually talking about Mindfulness?

I bought a new car recently, and the sales person informed me “you need to be mindful of fuel economy when you drive long distances”. I heard Jamie Oliver on TV last night recommending we “be mindful not to add too much salt”. And my nail technician a couple of weeks ago when I was getting a manicure (yes, I know, groan), asked me to be mindful not to hit my wet nails against the inside of the nail dryer.

The Problem with Body Image is the Concept of 'Body Image'

The Problem with Body Image is the Concept of 'Body Image'

The language of ‘body image’ is common in our culture of attention to appearance, and lately, conversation about body image seems to everywhere. Body image is a factor commonly related to mental health for young people, and is similarly a concern for many people as they age and come to terms with their changing bodies.

When you think about it, it’s pretty strange that we give so much attention to the image of our bodies. 

Love Your Body

Love Your Body

I used to cringe at the phrase ‘Love Your Body’.

Every anti-narcissism bone in my body reacted to this as a statement I thought of as ego-based and overtly focused on appearance.

But I’ve been thinking about what it might mean to really love your body and I’ve changed my mind. Love after all, is about care. It’s about kindness, respect, and a deep affection and appreciation.

Understanding Emotion

Understanding Emotion

Ok… lets be clear about something in our psychological world that seems to cause an awful lot of misunderstanding – there’s no such thing as a ‘negative’ emotion.

The language of ‘positive’ and ‘negative’ emotion seems to be commonplace in our popular language about mental health. This positive/negative assessment of our emotions is one which is primarily based on perceived desirability. Happiness is highly desirable, therefore we refer to it as ‘positive’. Other emotions though such as fear or sadness are not quite as desirable, and as a result are often labelled as ‘negative’.

Change is Always Possible

Change is Always Possible

When we can look at our life objectively one thing we may notice is that change is happening, all the time.   Think about it.  People you used to love are no longer in your life and you now have new relationships.  The way you spend your time may have changed.  Maybe experiences that used to hold importance and value for you have been replaced by new experiences.  And sure as we can be, our minds, bodies and the world around us are changing in each and every moment.